I have been blessed to be selected as part of the launch team for Mary DeMuth’s book “the wall around your heart” that is being released on October 15th this year.
I have just escaped horrendous circumstances that no one should have to go through. I have often thought that I would not wish my life on my worst enemy.
I could so easily relate to Mary’s statement in the book, “My capacity to bear more pain had been stretched to breaking.”
In the past years, I watched myself shut down. Who could blame me. Most of those in my life were not treating me or my family right. While healthy borders or boundaries are necessary, the danger is that we shut everyone out when we build walls to protect ourselves. While that may be safe, it is incredibly lonely and not the will of the Father for us.
Recently a friend who prays for me wrote to encourage me to allow the Lord to knock down the WALL of survivial mode so that I would not react defensively to people. I did not know that I was doing this and I was defensive when I read her message.
Feeling like a refugee from war, I was in denial and numb. The nudge from God began after my friend started to pray. I started to do some research and found Mary DeMuth.
Mary DeMuth’s book “the wall around your heart”, I believe is an answer to prayer for me.
Mary writes in the introduction chapter – “The Fortress Heart”:
“I see walls nearly everywhere. Devastation and bitterness
in the aftermath of relationship blowups. Folks walking zombie-
like after friends betray. People leaving churches because
of underhanded remarks. Friends, years in the making,
departing as enemies. Hurt people barricading themselves
from ever having to feel relational pain again, discovering
instead the angst of loneliness behind the barrier. People
holding tightly to control, only to see their relational worlds
spin into chaos. Others who cannot focus on a task because
of all the conflict hollering around them.
Walls aren’t pretty.
But they’re real.”
Mary uses something that we are all so familiar with, something that most of us have memorized and can easily recite, but for many of us, it is words and perhaps we have not understood the meaning behind those words, or they have lost their meaning with familiarty.
Mary digs deep into the Lord’s Prayer to show us how we are to relate to others and to God.
“It’s the type of prayer that Jesus modeled, lived, breathed.”
As Mary rightly says, ”Jesus is our example of openhearted living.”
“Tucked within His prayer are secrets to withstanding conflict, letting go of turmoil, and seeing God in His proper light.”
“The Lord’s Prayer is our treasure map. The obstacles are our hearts and the pain inflicted by others. But the outcome will be freedom, joy, peace, healing, hope, and our fortress wall broken down.”
Every Monday is #OpenHeartMondays, as we go through Mary DeMuth’s book “the wall around your heart” chapter by chapter.